Honesty and openness. I want long-term. I'm dating adult women in their 30's and 40's. All have moved cities at least once, some have even relocated continents.
A relationship is one of the biggest changes and impacts in your life. Yet, why is making time to get to know each other such a drawn-out thing? I question this social practice. It isn't time apart that magically makes relationships stronger, it is experience and attention. Yes, we need personal time to reflect, but there has to be a real experience to reflect on.
Part-time relationships seem all the rage. Priorities: Careers, hobbies, alone time. It isn't just me, I observe it all over the place in study of society and relationships. I've had shallow love, it seems easily found - I'm after a deep and lasting relationship.
If we can't work together to coordinate 10 hours of quality time a week, then perhaps a long-term relationship isn't what you want. If you are dating others and spreading those hours, then be honest and open - I'm dating, so I know that there are various stages of getting to know a person and it's a bit of a juggle act.
More important: is your life so independent that I'm not the right one for you? If you can't make time for your dating relationships now, how is the future going to be in hard times together?
You seem like a nice girl - but I am not wanting a fantasy of you. I don't really know you. I want to know the real you. I want you to know the real me. I am open and honest - faults and all - so you can decide and I can decide. Grow together and decide together. What's holding you back? I want to know the girl that is unique you, the total package, good and bad - not some dressed-up actress who is only on stage when presentable. I seek The Girl that is you. I won't get bored, you are ever-changing, I'm after that!