Saturday, February 13, 2010

I'll let someone else present some of the issues...

A report from the chaotic postfeminist dating scene, where only the strong survive. I suggest you read the entire story, even if you don't agree with specifics.

I surely do observe our society is in a major cultural shift. Currently... freedom to experiment has not freed people from expectations, it has created many conflicting and chaotic expectations.  Such is the point in history that I see us currently in the USA.  I have experienced this, I have witnessed this, I have studied the history of this.

From the article:

The woman may be hoping for a hookup, but she may also be looking for a husband, a co-parent, a sperm donor, a relationship, a threesome, or a temporary place to live. She may want one thing in November and another by Christmas. “I’ve gone through phases in my life where I bounce between serial monogamy, Very Serious Relationships and extremely casual sex,” writes Megan Carpentier on Jezebel, a popular website for young women. “I’ve slept next to guys on the first date, had sex on the first date, allowed no more than a cheek kiss, dispensed with the date-concept altogether after kissing the guy on the way to his car, fucked a couple of close friends and, more rarely, slept with a guy I didn’t care if I ever saw again.” Okay, wonders the ordinary guy with only middling psychic powers, which is it tonight?
This article puts a lot of the questions and experience on the table for discussion. There's a point where even if I'm talking about it, I don't care to solve society problems. I've just been trying to figure out where I am standing, who I am, and to find someone who likes the flavor of me.  In the end, there is me. And there is you. That's all it takes, two of us.

I'm here. Sharing me. Inviting you. That much of me, I have figured out. I have my freedom and independence, including my choice to seek to give it up. My heart says... Partnership, imperfect, is perfect.

1 comment:

  1. Absolutely.........imperfect is Perfect!!! Having flaws is perfect etc... Having a partnership is flawed and imperfect ergo...perfect all on its own! As it seems to me you deserve to have that relationship but of course that means that I am placing judgment on you but I think that perhaps you don't mind.

    Today, my mind is a bit cloudy so I am not going to write more as it is not easy to concentrate but perhaps I will be able to write you a letter later on.

    Hugs and Kisses xoxoxo